Being Loved & Being Heard

May 13, 2024 @ 8:37am through May 16, 2024 @ 8:57am

It’s Monday and Mothers’ Day weekend is over. I wonder if I am the only woman, mother who is glad that it is all done. I found myself grateful for it to be done. Holidays are full of so much happiness, watching the children, my child so full of joy. Yet holidays also have this melancholy sadness to them as I approach the big 5-0. I miss so many who have passed on, transitioned, as we say. My Big Daddy, my Uncle Frank, my Big Mama, my Auntie Bernice, my Auntie Drew, my Auntie Bobbi, Uncle Cooney, Uncle Lynn, Auntie Lois Ann, Cousin Shameka, Cousin Poppa, my Uncle Steven, my Auntie Delores, Cousin Logan…yesterday was one of the saddest days for my family. Funerals are always hard for me, but this one hits us all so hard. I know I wrote about lovin’ on each other but it has to be deeper than that. As humans, we have to really start having conversations again. Not long texts or emails. It's something I have to work on, myself. I have to do more calling, than texting. I am a lover of words, obviously. I mean I love writing and sharing it with others. And capturing my words in my blog is liberating and creating stories and poetry is beyond satisfying. But having a conversation with a loved one is priceless. Putting yourself in the position, to listen to how someone is really feeling, is invaluable. I am now challenging myself to have, at least 3, real conversations with people who I really care about, in a week. Having these “real” conversations, I feel, are going to make my loved one and I feel loved and heard. And that’s all we really need, right? I mean we want to be understood, too…but understanding begins with feeling loved and heard.